Question: In Matthew 22:28,30, Jesus says we will be as the angels in Heaven. Will we actually be angels and not know our husbands or wives in Heaven?
Answer: Matthew 22:28,30 says,
"Therefore in the Resurrection whose wife shall she be of the seven? for they all had her." (28) "For in the Resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven." (30)
The question in this passage is about "marriage in heaven." The Sadducees (unbelievers) had given Christ a hypothetical question concerning a woman who had seven husbands. This in no way teaches that we are going to be angels when we get to Heaven. It only indicates that, in Heaven, our relationship to Christ and others will be on a much higher plane than our marriage relationship while on Earth. In fact, we are told that we shall judge angels. (1 Corinthians 6:3).
These are the most wicked angels that brought about the flood. (Genesis 6). Peter describes them in 2 Peter 2:4,
"For if God spared not the angels that sinned, but cast them down to hell, and delivered them into chains of darkness, to be reserved unto judgment;"
Angels are also appointed to minister to the saved,
"Are they (the angels) not all ministering spirits, sent forth to minister for them who shall be heirs of salvation?" (Hebrews 1:14)
In Heaven we will still be the person we were on Earth, only without our sinful body. We will have a new glorified body, like that of our Lord Jesus Christ. Philippians 3:20,21 tells us,
"For our conversation (the Greek is "citizenship") is in heaven; from whence also we look for the Saviour, the Lord Jesus Christ. Who shall change our vile (i.e., "sinful") body, that it may be fashioned like unto his (Christ’s) glorious body..."
We have no record of angels ever marrying, as there would be no one to marry! They are all male. We have no record of any angels in the Bible being women or playing on their harps. This is contrary to much religious art we have today, and many portrayals on television.
Some time back, a man took exception to the fact that there are no women angels. He told me that he knew for sure his wife was an angel; because she was always "up in the air, harping about something!"
There is no reason to believe that we will not know each other in Heaven and rejoice over the previous relationships and experiences we have had. In Matthew 17:1-4, Peter, James, and John recognized Moses and Elijah, even though both had been dead for hundreds of years.
Only Jesus Christ made it possible for you and I to escape the torment and total darkness of a literal Hell (2 Peter 2:17), so we could spend all eternity with Him.
"For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord." (Romans 6:23)